As much as we love our fiancés and they love us, not all of them are into the very fine details of planning a wedding as we are. The truth is, you will have to be the “quarterback” of your wedding and for good reason – the bride is typically the one to be the most excited about the finer details. However, this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t cherish the event as much as you.
Also, just because your groom lacks the eye for designing the theme of your wedding, it doesn’t mean that he wants no part in the planning process or that you should be doing all the work for your wedding, either. This is an important day for both of you and should still involve your groom’s help and input. Planning a wedding takes a lot of effort and you will need to work together by utilizing each other’s strengths and interests. This is what makes you two such a great team and a perfect complement to each other.
Here are 7 tips to help plan your wedding together:
1. Understand that some men just view weddings differently than women, but it doesn’t mean they are not excited for their wedding day. It still will be one of the most important days of his life, and one that he can add his own special touch to in his own way.
2. Don’t expect your groom to show the same level of enthusiasm over picking out decorative wedding details like flowers and table linens if it is not in his nature. Don’t be upset with him if he doesn’t share in your excitement over certain elements of planning a wedding; it’s ok for you two to be excited about different things.
3. When you ask him for his opinion and he says, “I don’t know, whichever one you like,” don’t get upset and assume he doesn’t care He indeed cares, but more so that he just wants you to be happy.
4. Don’t force him to do tasks he has no interest in, like spending countless hours perusing Pinterest for the perfect centerpiece. You love him for who he is, and there is no sense in trying to change him by forcing him to do tasks you know he has not interest in and will not enjoy.
5. Allow your groom to take charge of tasks that utilize his strengths, are more action-oriented or in areas that he may have some interest in such as music or photography. Make sure to still work together and make important decisions together, but still allow him to take the lead on these tasks so he feels like he’s contributing to the wedding plans.
6. Show your appreciation and not frustration. No one is perfect and most likely your groom is not the perfect wedding planner. Don’t get frustrated with him for what he’s not excited about, but show your appreciation for the hard work and effort he has put in to help make it a wonderful day.
7. Keep the big picture in mind. Planning your wedding should bring you closer together and not cause fights over wedding favors or seating charts. Remember that your wedding is a joyous occasion celebrating your love for each other and nothing is more important than that.
